It was hard not to get caught up in the Royal Wedding.  I had decided that I was not going to watch it as I really was not too bothered about it, but as M was away, he had asked me to record it on 4 different channels.  I had got on with my day and started the recordings at 9am and left them to it as they were running until 3pm.

I went out, got some shopping, and walked the dogs, did the vacuuming and cleaned the windows.  I decided to take a sit down and have a cup of tea, and turned the TV on, and got caught up watching the wedding.  Being a proficient lipreader (I am a little deaf) I found it even more interesting watching what Harry was saying to William, and then the clincher of him saying to Megan “You look amazing!”  It reminded me of the day M and I had our Civil Partnership 10 years ago after.  I thought we should renew our vows next year as we will have been together for 20 years.  It shows how one wedding makes you look at your life and appreciate the person you are with.

bruce.jpgOne of the main highlights for me was Bishop Michael Curry.  I read later that quite a few people on social media were talking about him going on too long etc., and I saw a lot of the congregation sniggering in typical British fashion but I was riveted, I loved what he said, enjoyed his delivery and his all-out passion.  For me, this is how the church should be, rather than our typical cold approach that really makes people leave in droves.  I am not a religious man, never have been and never will be as I do not believe in the dogma and control the church puts on people.  Religion has no consistency and Christianity seems to be a religion about Jesus, and not about the religious teachings of Jesus.  I digress, I thought what he said about love and fire was refreshing.  Then to round off a great sermon we had the amazing Gospel Choir singing “Stand By Me”, making it a fantastic and memorable wedding.  If I was a religious man I would have to go to the Gospel Church.

I look forward to seeing more of The Duke and Duchess of Sussex, and long may they be happy and not have to live through the indignity that the press put upon Harry’s Mum.


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  1. I didn’t watch the whole wedding, as I woke up just in time to see the recessional and the newlyweds riding through the streets live. I watched some of the ceremony (including Bishop Curry’s sermon) a little bit later when one of the cable channels replayed it. He’s the presiding Bishop of the Episcopal Church (which is the U.S.’s member church in the Anglican Communion; makes sense as Meghan just converted to Anglicanism/Episcopalianism in order to marry into the royal family), and he is the first black man to hold the job.

    I totally get it with your stance on religion, I too turned away from it because of its control on people and also because politicians in my country think it is acceptable to politicize religion and try to write their religious beliefs into what is supposed to be secular, republican law (small R, not to be confused with our conservative political party), as is supposed to be guaranteed by our Constitution. A Google search turned up some studies saying that about half of the British population currently identifies as non-religious (atheist, agnostic, secular humanist, and all other related stances). It seems like non-religious Brits (and most of Western Europe in general, especially in Scandinavia) have become more accepted in mainstream society, from what I’ve read.

    Unfortunately, we’re nowhere near that here in America. Only about a quarter of Americans identify as non-religious, and especially in the South where i live being non-religious is somewhat looked down upon. People here still think that being openly atheist should disqualify a person from serving in public office. (Our Constitution actually has a clause that basically says that no person shall be subjected to a “religious test” to hold public office in the United States, so why that is still an issue bothers me.) A handful of them have been elected to state legislatures, but have basically been hushed in instances where they’ve tried to get an invocation to be changed from a prayer to something more inclusive.

    I basically have kept quiet about my irreligion around the general public since I became an atheist at 16. My friends know and are accepting of it, while of my family only my brother knows (but he was also accepting of it; he and my sister-in-law attend a Baptist church, whose worship services seem *slightly* more liberal than at the Baptist churches my brother and I went to as tweens and teens). I can’t imagine how kids from devoutly religious or ultra-conservative families must feel if they lose their faith and have no real support system to go to. There are a handful of “Quiverfull” families famous here mainly for the large numbers of kids they have (they are ultra-conservative and we usually refer to them as “fundies”, short for fundamentalists), and I always end up feeling sorry for people in those kind of groups, especially for the girls who aren’t allowed to work, dress, or even think for themselves. They’re expected to be housewives and mothers and must answer to a man’s authority, and I think that’s no way for a woman to live. Boys are almost always more prized in those families over girls (they can work, be breadwinners, and lead worship). And the patriarchal beliefs of those groups provide no sanctuary for those girls if they end up being abused or sexually assaulted, usually placing blame on the victims. Spiritual abuse (which I see as when the abuser uses religious beliefs as a form of or justification for their abuse) is not really talked about, but it happens and I’m sad that no one speaks up about it.

    Phew 😅, that was a heck of a tangent. Back to love, though. You guys are coming up on 20 years? That is incredible! (My parents have been married for 32 years and have been together for 34, almost 35.) I say celebrate it and do it in a way that is unique and special to the two of you. M is now following me on Instagram as well, and I couldn’t have “met” two nicer people. (Well, about as well as one can through digital technology.) I’m sure you two will figure out something special. ¡Viva el amor!

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    1. Religion broke this country back in the 1500’s and 1600’s and I think there really hasn’t been a time like today where most of the country is not religious. Lots of churches have become offices and homes, which I would love to have as a home, all that vaulted space to fill. One thing that makes me vomit with this country is that the Charity Commission states that Jediism is not a religion and did not “promote moral or ethical improvement” as it is based on a set of films, yet they accept Scientology which is based on science fiction writings, which to me is the same side of the coin. I did love the iconography when I was at St Peters in Vatican City, and indeed all that I saw on every street in Rome, but it is only the appreciation of art that I have and not in what message it allegedly portrays. I would like a full crucifixion scene tattooed on my back, only because I like the art.

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      1. Based on all the abuse I’ve heard go on in Scientology, I have a lot of issues with that particular religion. I can’t really watch Tom Cruise films anymore because of it (and he’s considered pretty high up on the Scientology ladder). But I’ve heard of all sorts of sexual, emotional, and financial abuse going on within Scientology (ex-Scientologist and actress Leah Remini did a pretty fantastic series exposing some of this stuff called “Leah Remini: Scientology and the Aftermath). It’s been known to basically extort its members out of hundreds of thousands, sometimes even a million dollars so they can advance up the church’s “ladder”. Unfortunately, Scientology is protected under the Free Exercise clause of the First Amendment of our Constitution, so the church itself cannot be criminally charged for its practices as a religious organization, but members can be charged for criminal acts they allegedly perpetrate. Unfortunately, it also tax exempt as a religious organization, otherwise I think they’d have to pay a lot of fines. The church’s anti-psychiatry stance also rubs me the wrong way; my best friend is bipolar and I know for a fact that if it wasn’t for psychiatry, she would not be alive right now. My dad, being conservative, has sort of a “do not mention” list of people and topics or it will set him off on some sort of political rant. My list is much shorter, but Tom Cruise is one of those people. Pretty much any movie he made after the mid-1990s is off-limits for me (although it was around the time he started dating Katie Holmes that he really started going off the rails; him calling a journalist “glib” in response to the anti-psychiatry stuff also sticks in my craw).

        I’d feel the same way entering St. Peter’s in the Vatican or the Duomo in Florence, I could definitely appreciate those buildings for their artistic and architectural value.


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